Self-Acceptance is one of the things the majority of people struggle with. They’re constantly comparing themselves to other people only causing themselves more pain. Some people go as far as bullying others for their appearance or their body.

It’s natural to want to feel and look a certain way. We all do, its part of our DNA. Many have even undergone surgery to look the way they have always wanted. But, many have paid a price and for some, it has been deadly.

I understand when there needs to be a surgical intervention because nothing else can be done. For example, sagging skin after multiple childbirth or extreme weight loss leaves the skin elasticity hard to bounce back.

What is incomprehensible is taking unnecessary risks and have surgery for things exercising can change for you. I’ve seen pictures of many that have had butt lift surgery. Not only does it look unnatural but the consequences to their overall health and appearance have been horrible. Some of these surgeries do not produce the expected results. The question I always ask “Is it worth it to run the risk of losing your life over something you can naturally change?”.

Lack of Self-Acceptance

A deeper emotional issue that needs to be addressed because it manifests in several ways is a lack of self-acceptance. Lack of self-confidence, self-love, and body shaming to name a few. This could be the reason for your discontent. Not so much that there is anything wrong with how you look or your body.

No amount of surgery will ever be able to change how someone feels about themselves if the issues are still present within themselves.

There needs to be a mindset shift in how you perceive yourself along with a determination in finding the motivation in getting the results you want.

We must identify the old patterns and limiting beliefs we have about ourselves and change them to empowering ones. Once there is awareness of these old patterns and limiting believes, this will help move forward into more self-acceptance. If you don’t know the reason why you feel the way you do, how can positive and empowering changes take place, right? So, we need to dive deep inside and sit with ourselves.

Mindset Shift Practice

  1. Create a journaling practice to dig deep and find the reason why you are not accepting yourself or your body.
    • Get a journal and write down in your journal answers to the following action steps or questions. Perhaps any other that may arise during your practice.
    • Take a moment to write how you feel.
    • Set and write down your intentions for creating this practice.
    • Ask yourself:
      • How do I feel about myself or my body?
      • Why do I feel this way?
      • What happened to make me feel this way?
      • Did someone say something to me when I was younger?
      • If so, what did I start to believe about myself after? What changed in me? How did I see myself afterward?
      • Do I judge myself or beat myself up for the body I have? Note the emotions that are coming up you. It’s normal to have them for this practice. Write them down.
      • What do I believe about my body and what has this belief prevented me from doing?
      • Do you find yourself judging others based on their body and appearance? Why?
  2. After doing this practice, put the journal down and come back to it in a few hours or the next day.ย  Then, go back and read what you wrote.
    • What are the old patterns and limiting beliefs about yourself that you became aware that you didn’t know before the practice?
    • What has shifted for you in your mind and body about your beliefs?
    • How do you feel about yourself and your body now compared to when you began?
    • What would you say to the then younger version of yourself now in looking back on where you are today?
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Changing Limiting Beliefs & Patterns

  1. To change those limiting beliefs and negative thinking that you are now aware of, you need to replace them with positive empowering affirmations.
    • Take a piece of paper and create two columns.
    • In one column you will write down the limiting beliefs and negative old thinking patterns.
    • In the next column write down positive, empowering affirmations for each negative or limiting beliefs you wrote down.
  2. Repeat these affirmations daily. Make post-its and stick them wherever you will see them every day, even in your car. Until you believe it and until no other contrary thoughts come back in.
  3. After you have changed these old patterns and beliefs, the decision and motivation to exercise should be much easier. As you start loving yourself, you will do what it takes to take care of yourself.

Self-Acceptance is Loving Yourself

Self-love is really about loving all of who you are, and it begins with self-acceptance. We need to love and accept ourselves no matter how thick or thin or how big or small we are because every one of us is beautiful.ย 

Realize that you are unique and there is no one else like you in the world. There is no other copy of you out there. When you value yourself for who you are and how you look, it is the same value others will give you.

Your body is your temple. Believe it!

It takes you everywhere you want to go and whatever you tell it, it will believe and act accordingly. Negative thinking or body shaming yourself can only cause physical and emotional breakdown as our being is connected entirely. Body, mind & spirit. Be mindful of what you think and say to yourself.

Booty Gains

I could not end this post without talking about booty gains. The booty is an area of the body that can be easily trained and where the fastest results are seen. At least, that has been my experience. It requires a commitment to exercise, discipline, and proper nutrition to see gains but it is not impossible to grow a booty. There are tons of testimonials on women who have.

I would love to help you with mindset goals or getting started on an exercise routine. Please check out my coachingย page for more details. I would be happy to support you.

Blessings!!